|Posted on May 15, 2018 at 4:40 PM||comments (1)|
Sometimes it feels like life is spinning out of control, and it’s all beyond your reach.
Is that your reality though? Is there something you can control?
THINGS THAT YOU CONTROL:
1. Your thoughts
2. Your words
3. Your responses
4. Your choices
5. Whether or not you take care of yourself
6. What you say to yourself (“Stupid, lame, sick, awesome, brilliant, trying…”)Read Full Post »
|Posted on April 27, 2017 at 12:50 AM||comments (0)|
“How we see it is how it will be.” (Anonymous)
We most often suffer more from what we FEAR than what actually HAPPENS, so it’s important for you to learn how to evaluate what you are thinking. Things always look less fearful when we face them head on vs. running or distracting ourselves into TV, alcohol, food, or work.
Spend some time asking yourself these questions:*
1. What is the situation that I’m stressed or worried about?
2. What a...Read Full Post »
|Posted on September 4, 2016 at 3:05 PM||comments (0)|
It was placed on my heart to put together a curriculum for teen girls, so that teen girls would have a safe, judgment-free zone to go each week to discuss the many challenges and pressures that come with being female. Us older ladies know a thing or two about the unique challenges that come with being a woman, but what about the challenges of being an adolescent female in this day and age? I have counseled numerous teen girls and they each talk about one common challenge: "PRESSURE." Pressure...Read Full Post »
|Posted on July 6, 2016 at 5:25 PM||comments (0)|
A helpful tip when feeling anxious is to challenge your thinking. Often, our thoughts affect how we feel and contribute to anxiety symptoms.
Three questions are helpful in challenging your thinking:
1. Where is the evidence for this belief?
2. Is there any other way of looking at the situation?
3. Is the situation as bad as it seems?
Join us for our 6 week Anxiety Group beginning August 3rd to learn additional ways you can m...Read Full Post »
|Posted on April 8, 2016 at 12:05 AM||comments (0)|
1. Protect the children. Children have a deep psychological need to think well of BOTH parents. Avoid letting them hear you put down or say bad things about the other parent, regardless of how justified you feel in saying these things.
2. Depend on the experts. Well- meaning friends and family will give you legal and psychological advice; that’s not a good source. Thank them for their concern and move on.
3. Avoid other drastic life changes. Make yo...Read Full Post »
|Posted on December 2, 2015 at 3:20 PM||comments (0)|
1. Choose one holiday activity that’s the most important to you this year. Then ask each family member (Immediate family ONLY) to do the same. This year choose to do just those activities. Can’t narrow it down to one? Ok, then chose one thing to opt out of this year. (Yes, you really can say no to that awkward party.)
2. Do something for someone else…use your imagination. This could mean leaving a potted plant by someone’s doorstep, feeding the homel...Read Full Post »
|Posted on June 24, 2015 at 11:10 AM||comments (0)|
Here are some suggestions for making your therapeutic experience the best possible:
1) Be totally honest. Believe me, I've heard every story. The human condition contains basic elements that exist in all problems presented, and you're not going to shock me, nor am I going to disapprove of you!
2) Be open to new ways of thinking. Although you are free to examine, use, or discard any suggestions I may make, remember that behavior change is required for growth. "If you al...Read Full Post »
|Posted on January 27, 2015 at 2:40 PM||comments (0)|
1. Use a calm voice
2. Be direct and respectful
3. Avoid sarcasm
4. Use “I need” rather than “you should”
5. Ask for clarification if you need to
6. Take deep breaths
7. Call a time out if needed
8. Don’t assume they “just know”
9. Don’t use “you never” or “you always”
10. Take your problems to a licensed therapist if you find yourselves in the same argume...Read Full Post »
|Posted on November 18, 2014 at 2:35 PM||comments (0)|
What do you feel when you hear someone say, “Before we know it, the holidays will be here!" A surge of excitement? Or a knot in your stomach followed by rapid breathing?
If you're like most people, it may be a bit of both.
Either way you feel, holidays often cause both distress and "eustress", which is actually good stress, but pressure all the same.
Often we feel we have no control over situations, and that leaves us somewhere between uncomfor...Read Full Post »